I graduated high school in the early '90s and this was my exact experience. I had a lot of guy friends and was into pro sports, things that weren't girly, but I also liked girly magazines and clothing. It was a great time to grow up because we could do as we pleased and no one really cared or made a big deal over anything. I miss that.
Wow. Yes. I’m also from the “girls can do anything” era (born in 1973) and participated in a mix of typical girl and typical boy activities as a kid. I grew up to be a woman who’s a software engineer, doesn’t shy away from “manly” tasks like home improvement projects or fixing my car, but is also a wife and mom and I don’t mind getting dressed up now and then.
I have two daughters, my oldest born in 2005 like yours, and I realized how much more “girly” they seemed to be expected to be than what I’d experienced. My oldest unfortunately fell into the transgender trap and has been calling herself a boy for quite a few years now, and I definitely think that this trend is a contributing factor. If “girl” is narrowly defined, and associated with a bunch of negative stereotypes like being shallow, appearance-obsessed, a sex object for males, subject to all kinds of judgement and conflicting expectations, who would feel like that represents them? Who would want to be that? How I wish that world still existed for my daughters, and that my oldest could have seen a path to being a genuine person with a variety of interests without needing to reject who she is.
My experience was similar. Born in 1970, I went to both a small international high school and a large Texas high school. I just don’t remember any of it being such a big thing. I never felt like being a girl limited my choices or that I had to dress in a certain way.
The tomboy can be revived…particularly if we insist upon it as we become grandmothers.
As for the so-called “trans” agenda which has been coerced upon society in recent politically fraught years, it will comprehensively discredit itself and disappear in due course.
Why, do you ask? Because statistics show that over half of trans-identifying individuals who undergo every pharmaceutical and surgical intervention on offer STILL go on to commit suicide.
A large percentage who survive drastic measures go on to regret their decisions and choose to de-transition. Both trends lead to the eventual elimination of the “trans” cult.
You might look at not the era but the location. I live in rural Missouri and our young ladies experience the best of life. One young lady in our church went hunting in the morning (killed a trophy buck and processed the deer under the supervision of a dad), and then was dressed as a beautiful young woman for homecoming. She raises and shows hogs, rides horses, plays sports and yet is totally feminine in the best way. I suspect it is not just the age we live in, but the culture of the community. There is hope, get out of the cities
I graduated high school in the early '90s and this was my exact experience. I had a lot of guy friends and was into pro sports, things that weren't girly, but I also liked girly magazines and clothing. It was a great time to grow up because we could do as we pleased and no one really cared or made a big deal over anything. I miss that.
Wow. Yes. I’m also from the “girls can do anything” era (born in 1973) and participated in a mix of typical girl and typical boy activities as a kid. I grew up to be a woman who’s a software engineer, doesn’t shy away from “manly” tasks like home improvement projects or fixing my car, but is also a wife and mom and I don’t mind getting dressed up now and then.
I have two daughters, my oldest born in 2005 like yours, and I realized how much more “girly” they seemed to be expected to be than what I’d experienced. My oldest unfortunately fell into the transgender trap and has been calling herself a boy for quite a few years now, and I definitely think that this trend is a contributing factor. If “girl” is narrowly defined, and associated with a bunch of negative stereotypes like being shallow, appearance-obsessed, a sex object for males, subject to all kinds of judgement and conflicting expectations, who would feel like that represents them? Who would want to be that? How I wish that world still existed for my daughters, and that my oldest could have seen a path to being a genuine person with a variety of interests without needing to reject who she is.
My experience was similar. Born in 1970, I went to both a small international high school and a large Texas high school. I just don’t remember any of it being such a big thing. I never felt like being a girl limited my choices or that I had to dress in a certain way.
The tomboy can be revived…particularly if we insist upon it as we become grandmothers.
As for the so-called “trans” agenda which has been coerced upon society in recent politically fraught years, it will comprehensively discredit itself and disappear in due course.
Why, do you ask? Because statistics show that over half of trans-identifying individuals who undergo every pharmaceutical and surgical intervention on offer STILL go on to commit suicide.
A large percentage who survive drastic measures go on to regret their decisions and choose to de-transition. Both trends lead to the eventual elimination of the “trans” cult.
The tomboy will return, better than ever!
You might look at not the era but the location. I live in rural Missouri and our young ladies experience the best of life. One young lady in our church went hunting in the morning (killed a trophy buck and processed the deer under the supervision of a dad), and then was dressed as a beautiful young woman for homecoming. She raises and shows hogs, rides horses, plays sports and yet is totally feminine in the best way. I suspect it is not just the age we live in, but the culture of the community. There is hope, get out of the cities
You might be right. I grew up in a rural area.